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Those who have experienced & have recovered from emotional abuse tend to recognize the signs of it much sooner (thus, are able to place boundaries where necessary) than those the manipulator victimizes.
For example, it’s extremely common for spouses, family members, and/or friends to co-depend or even continue supporting the narcissist, as they don’t always recognize the subtleties in which they are being used, abused, and manipulated — to them, their behavior is ‘just their norm.’
However, it’s essential to realize that these people are SUFFERING and do so unawarely. I don’t typically like using the word ‘narcissist’ for this reason; narcissism in and of itself stretches a vast spectrum, varying from individual to individual for a variety of root reasons. It’s important to know that it’s a coping mechanism that gets developed as a result of early childhood trauma and/or environment (i.e., families with low EI, or emotional intelligence).
Healthy narcissism is necessary; unhealthy narcissism is hurtful and toxic.
It IS possible for them to get help (in fact, many are successful at getting help & healing), but it would require for them to have the capacity to realize they may have a painful, deeper issue - and, unfortunately, most who suffer from this will immediately shut down the possibility, as it would change the narrative of who they are in their own mind.
📚 Book recommendation:
‘Rethinking Narcissism’ by
Harvard Medical School psychologist & Huffington Post blogger, Dr. Craig Malkin.
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